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Appreciating the Health Benefits of Good Friends  

​When it comes to mental and physical health, science is learning more and more about both the benefits of friendship and the increased risks of social isolation.  The short quiz given in the link provided below is a good summary of the benefits. For example:

​1. Having good friends can boost your life expectancy more than 20%.

​2. Loneliness is as harmful to your health as alcoholism, smoking or obesity.

3. Specifically, friendship:  -- Eases stress

                                           -- Boosts you immune system and

                                          --  Protects your heart.

4. On the other side, social isolation can lead to: -- Depression 

                                                                              -- Memory loss and

                                                                              -- A weakened immune system.

5. Also, keeping in touch with friends who have moved and now live far away provide the same benefits as those friends who live close by. 

 

The take aways from these findinga are important. 

 

If your are without friends, don't dispair.  Social media provides an excellent way to break the ice and find folks you have things in common with.  Friendship can spring from meeting someone withwhom you have common interests.

 

If you have been neglecting your friends, don't ignore this change because it could be a sign of depression.  

 

Finally, it is important to appreciate how important your friends are.   If things have become distant, do something about it and reconnect.   You'll be glad that you did ! 
​Rev. Michael Heath, LMHC, Fellow A.A.P.C. .              9 15 2016        

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When it comes to sex, men are Windows and women are DOS

 

We all know that men and women are really different, especially when it comes to sex.  If not understood, the differences relating to how often one is in the mood and what is arousing can lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and painful conflicts.  Fortunately, there is an easy way to conceptualize the fundamental differences between male and female sexuality: Think of the differences between Windows  and DOS computer operating systems.

 

 

Back in the day, before a computer was directed by a cursor and a mouse, computers were controlled by Microsoft Disc Operating System (MS DOS).  Instead of clicking on an icon on your video screen to navigate through files and folders, DOS was controlled by discreet code commands which told the computer what to do.

 

The differences between a graphics based, point and click system and a code/ command entry system were dramatic. Not only did Windows make it faster to get to and open a file but  you could also have multiple files open simultaneously.           

This computer analogy, while not perfect, can help us to understand the differences between male and female sexual response in several ways:

1)    Many men have the sex application (interest in)  open all of the time.  Although it may be minimized in the task bar, all it takes is one key stroke (so to speak) and the program is up and running.  

2)    The sexual arousal file for most women, in contrast to men, is buried in one sub folder after another and it requires that a series of precise “commands” be entered in order to reach it.  For example:  One folder to be opened is rest and relaxation and another is having good feelings toward one’s mate while still another is feeling emotionally and physically safe and secure. Only after these “folders” have been opened (i.e. is after a woman is in accesses these feelings)    is she able to become sexually interested, available and responsive. 

3)    Given this more complicated process, the time required for women to reach sexual ecstasy is longer than it is for men.  Men require only a few minutes while women commonly need 20 + minutes.

4)    Men also need to know that the “foreplay” which precedes sex  and is needed to help their partners “get in the mood” is primarily not sexual.  Making life easier by helping around the house, being complimentary and considerate are critical steps to opening the female arousal files.    

5)    Just like with DOS run computers, if one of the preliminary steps to arousal was not properly entered, the whole process can come to a halt or have a less than satisfying conclusion.

6)    Understanding female sexual response patterns also provides guidance to trouble-shooting when things don’t go well.  If the wife is tired or stressed, if she is not feeling well physically or if she is depressed , having a satisfying sexual experience will be unlikely.  Also, if she is angry or resentful  at her mate or if there are concerns about honesty or fidelity, these factors can block a robust response.

 

Finally, understanding and talking about our partner’s experience and concerns, especially when it is different than our own, can be helpful in deepening mutual empathy and increasing the sense of closeness which is needed for lasting and satisfying relations.

Rev. Michael Heath, LMHC, Fellow A.A.P.C.   8 31 2016

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Good News for People Who Worry about Memory Loss 

 

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A lot of folks are worried about Alzheimer's and other forms of dementia.  While deterioration in cognitive abiltity is a serious problem for many, it is important to understand that most memory glitches are not permanent nor are they progressive.  In fact, many memory problems are caused by other things such as anxiety, depression, dehydration and other medical conditions  and most importantly ... are not indicators of Alzheimer's disease.

 

Recently there has been some good news for people who worry about forgetting things . According to the study, a person's ability to know that s/he has forgotten something is a strong inidcator that that their cognitive aparatus is in tact.  

 

Nonethe less, if you are worried, the first thing to do if you have concerns about your memory or being forgetful, is to see your doctor.  There are simple tests which can identify treatable issues which  can clear up the problem and relieve your worry.

 

Also, learn more about what dementia and other cognition impairing conditions and what is actually involved.  Here is a helpful link which provides more detailed information about what your doctor will look for.  : https://www.healthafter50.com/memory/article/what-is-dementia-what-doctors-check-for?&utm_medium=email&utm_content=EMH_160815_001&utm_campaign=EMH&spMailingID=9355028&spUserID=MTQxMTQzNTkwMjc3S0&spJobID=981187311&spReportId=OTgxMTg3MzExS0       

Remember : The more you know, the less you will worry needlessly !                 

Rev. Michael Heath LMHC, Fellow A.A.P.C.  8 14 2016        

 

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September 15, 2016

Appreciating the Health Benefits of Good Friends

 



​When it comes to mental and physical health, science is learning more and more about both the benefits of friendship and the increased risks of social isolation.  The short quiz given in the link provided below offers a good summary of the benefits. For example:

​1. Having good friends can boost your life expectancy more than 20%.

​2. Loneliness is as harmful to your health as alcoholism, smoking or obesity.

3. Specifically, friendship:  -- Eases stress

                                           -- Boosts you immune system and

                                          --  Protects your heart.

4. On the other side, social isolation can lead to: -- Depression 

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