April 02, 2017

Judgers and Perceivers

 

In coming to the Jugders (Js) and Perceivers (Ps) we have arrived at the fourth axiss on which the Meyers-Briggs personality grid is built and it is one of the most difficult style contrasts to resolve interpersonally.

Js, like Ts, believe that there is only one correct way to proceed in any given situation and are quick to act.  Ps, on the other hand,  look at a situation from different angles and perspectives and need more time to reflect on how to proceed.   Ps believe that what is right varies depending on the perspective one has and depending upon where one stands to view it.   Thus, Js tend to have more problems getting along in situations where there are many different cultures or perspectives represented. 

Js ,like Ts,  have trouble reflecting or condidering other points of view when they are clear what the right course is. They believe that the truth or what is right is absolute and does not depend on context or cultural norms. 

Ps, on th other hand, often have trouble making decisions because they can become paralyzed with the different ways to understand a situation.  In society we need a balance between those who can be decisve and those who are reflective.

Interpersonally, Js and Ps often hook up and their peronality differneces can be a source of considerable strife and irritation. 

It is important for the P in the relationship to be assertive and set clear boundaries which the J must learn to respect.  The P needs to communicate that his/her point of view must be honored equally with the Js and taken into full account along with the J's when decisions are made. 

As  with all personality type differences, it is very important andhelpful for Js and Ps to be aware of each other's distinctions which can serve as a starting point for understanding problems and finding workable solutions.  With practice the clashes between personality styles can be reduced and  mutual understanding and respect can be attained.  

Rev. Michael Heath , LMHC, Fellow A.A.P.C.       4 2 2017      

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